is it an aspie thing that when i'm in a crowd and someone points an says "look at that person over there" i have absolutely no idea what i'm supposed to be looking at? there's ten people over there. be more specific.
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I don’t know if it’s an autistic thing. I know it’s an issue I also have.-Alyssa
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The doc refuses to diagnose me with aspergers or anything related to that but there is NO WAY I can look at anyones face during a conversation let alone eye contact...oh lord eye contact *shivers*
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Fun times. Oh, and just going to put it out there that informed self-diagnosis: It can be valid. There are barriers to dx, after all.-Alyssa
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See, for me, I can't even look at people faces when speaking to them. Anyone else like that?
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It happens. The more stressed I am, the more likely I am to be in that position, and I know a lot of people who never can look at faces. It’s a thing, mostly the thing to do there is be upfront: I can look at you, or I can talk, but not both. I’m going to talk.-Alyssa
I look beneath someone's eye or just below the bridge of the nose and it passes for eye contact
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It does! So do foreheads.-Alyssa
To the anon going to a psychologist--you know, there's a difference between self-diagnosing and having a suspicion. It's perfectly ok to tell them that you have reason to believe something.
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Yes. Be careful, though, since some psychologists will assume you must be automatically wrong and then never consider the thing.
re: eye contact. My therapist and I were talking about this today and he said to focus on the spot just above the nose, between the eyebrows, when faking eye contact.
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About the eye contact thing: I'm perfectly fine with the photos/video side of it but I feel like I'm terrible at it in real life? I do give it, but not for long because I'm worried that it seems like I'm staring at the person I'm talking to but then I also worry that I'm not giving enough and that it gives the impression that I'm not interested in the conversation/what they have to say to me.
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Hi , just wanted to say to the eye contact anon , I my whole life have struggled with making eye contact with people , at the age of three i use to say to my mum that i couldnt look at her in the eyes because it hurt , i still have trouble looking at people in the eyes (especially when distressed) but what my mum taught me to do is look at the persons face but focus on something that is in the difference behind there head that way it looks like your making eye contact but your actually not
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re eye contact anon: On a good day I can use eye contact in small portions and preserve my tolerance for it, but it's a conscious act like, "now I have to look in their eyes, or they'll think I'm mad and send me to the therapist again". I used to be really freaked out by photos with subjects of any kind as well, and I'm still not comfortable with photos of people staring. I have to cover them up.
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TW: Depression - You know, I was wondering about "Autistic" depression myself. I do have depression and it started when I was 11. Is there a difference between NT depression and Autistic depression? I know mine is usually because I feel abandoned or jealous that someone would rather hang out with someone else than me, basically alienation. If I feel like I'm being left behind that's when all the self sabotaging comes out.
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I don’t know that there’s a difference in the “there are environmental causes that exist” part, but in how people react to it specifically and in what things can cause it for each?
There may well be some “on average” type differences there.
I'm going to my psychiatrist tomorrow. And, I wan't to tell her that I might be autistic, or that I think I am. I don't like self diagnosing myself, and that's the thing that makes it really awkward about telling her if I'm wrong(Even tho I'm pretty sure I am.) Ever since we learnt about autism at school, I started researching at it became one of my special interests, so I know quite allot about it. But here's my question: How am I going to tell her?! Please!
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I would say to put together exactly what you want to mention to her that you’ve researched and try to organize it in some way that you can refer to it later. You may find that she’ll do a lot of work as far as initiating but if you have something like a written list, you could actually just give it to her and that can be enough.
Anyone have anything to add? (Or change?)
~Mat’thew
Is it normal for aspies to have intimacy issues?
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